There
are several and diverse reasons why love fails, I received messages on time
base and all seemed to be asking the same question out of shock, surprise and
confusion which is “why did love fail.”
They truly
believed that love is true, genuine, real and beautiful, and the last thing
they can think of was that their love will ever end or fail, but all of a
sudden things began to fall apart and different kind of unanswered questions popped
up and filled their heart; questions like:
Where is the
person I started this relationship with?
Where is my
first love?
He/she did not
love me again; why?
Our love have
finished; how?
He changed all
of a sudden and many more; but why?
As a means of
introduction to this wonderful topic and before we venture deep into the
languages of love which will be a deliverance to many individual, relationship and marriage if well understood and
engaged, I will like to point out part of the general reasons why love fails and the place
of the love language as a means of creating balance and bringing solution
The following
points are the major reasons which I’ve discovered over years to be part of the
basic reasons why love fails and this series will find possible solution to
them if you can follow till the end
Basic reasons why love fail
1. Infatuation: This is an unreasoning love for someone
or something or sexual attraction to someone or something. Infatuation doesn’t mean
you are lying, you may be saying the truth based on what you are feeling at the
present time, but because this violate the rule that governs the true meaning of
love, it is considered not
to be true and it will be glaring with time. You can see someone now and
immediately you’ve concluded within you that you are in love and wished to get
married to such an individual.
You are not
lying, you are saying the truth based on the impulses, but time will vet it and
make it glaring that are not in love and you will soon realize that the love is
not true and at such point, you may not be able to discover that what you called
love from the beginning wasn’t love and for this reason, you will start looking
for what and who to blame for the tragedy of your love story
And some time,
it may not necessarily be that you people can’t walk together but because the
foundation wasn’t strong rightly erected, the relationship will collapse, even
if it had resulted to marriage. Check what you share with your partner, is it
real or not?????
2. Disappointment: This is another major reason why love
fails, most time, when you are being disappointed by your partner and this
caused your love for him or her to depreciate, it will only take grace for that
love to grow back to its normal level and also to go beyond. Most times, it
ended up in breakup or divorce because to heal up from those disappointment
often time are not easy
If you are in
the category of playing games with your loved ones, playing with their heart and
emotions, you claimed to love them genuinely, yet you have other babes or guys
you are moving out with. Don’t worry, the fake product will cause you to lose
the original soon and you will regret forever. Change now before it is too late
3. Change: Human beings are liable to change at any
time, what you have always known may not be what you will see tomorrow and this
will break your heart. Though, positive change is good and often time may
challenge the relationship a little but will end up increasing the bond, but
when it is a negative change, it will ruin the relationship and make things
fall apart
Imagine
someone you have known to be faithful and loyal all of his or her life and
suddenly change to the opposite to the point that you can’t figure out the
reasons but was so disheartening. I know of a couple many years ago who were
married for years and they truly loved each other. The marriage continued to
grow without the wife knowing that her husband smokes, I don’t know how he managed
to cover it, but he smokes every day and yet the wife did not know
Tell me what
will happen to the wife the day she will discover that her so called saint
husband smokes, so change also cause love to fail
4. Ignorance: This is one of the core reason why love
fails, many people are in relationships and yet are bankruptcy of the knowledge
required to keep your relationship growing, there are also many individuals
that all they know about relationship is I LOVE YOU and you love me too,
imagine!!!
No idea of
what can make the relationship fail or how they can work together to build a
strong and lasting relationship. The fiancee did not know the love language of
the fiance and vice verse and here they are struggling and being disappointed
because all effort to make things work ended up in futility
You are
communicating something important to me in a language I don’t understand and
this is based on your own language and to you, you have given all your best and
to me, it is as if you are killing me. For instance; if the love language of a
lady is quality time and what the partner is communicating to her is word of
affirmation, there will be serious trouble and this is what many ladies are
suffering from regardless the effort being make by the partner to make things
work
As far as the
relationship is concerned, the lady in question may never appreciate all your
word of affirmation:
You are
beautiful; she will tell you she knows
Your dressing
is really nice and making sense; she will tell you she looked at the mirror
before leaving the house, so she knows
You are really
amazing; she will tell you she hears it from many people on daily basis
All she wanted
is time, not just time but quality time and because of ignorance on the part of
the partner, they both will continue to fight and argue on what knowledge would
have solved for them. Ignorance kills, go for knowledge
5. Interruption: This also most time can cause love to
fail, your love story can be interrupted by friends, family, neighbors,
colleague and many other people you are connected with, and if this
interruption persists without you being so strong not to yield to their advices and suggestions, the fellow in question will get tired of the relationship and
things will start falling apart
Haven’t you
seen instances where couples or lovers had fixed a date and suddenly one of the
family members interrupted with an unnecessary request which was made mandatory
to be granted in few hours to the fixed time, and because of the love he/she
has for the family, the appointment will be cancelled and if this continue to
happen consistently, it will fall things apart
It occurs
mostly to people who are too dependent, they can’t take decision if a friend,
brother, mum, dad or a colleague is not there or aware to help them out, they
are called mummy's boy or girl. Interruption can also cause your love to fail
Love languages
are powerful tools to keep, maintain, build and sustain a lasting, loving,
beautiful, successful and great relationship and marriage.
Lets proceed
to LOVELANGUAGE ONE
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