Truly, it is possible to have a hitch free relationship and marriage, though it will not
answer to wish and will alone but rather to a sustainable understanding and
intelligence about how relationship and marriage are designed to be. There is a
default design of men and women separately and these differences must be well
understood for success in relationship and marriage. No one can ever be
successful in relationship or marriage without this understanding because
success don't come by mistake.
There are principles and laws that governs
every successful relationship, and one of it is the concept of the love
language which is one of the core subject and teaching we will be enjoying soon.
For anyone to succeed in relationship or
marriage the true meaning of love beyond dictionary limitation must be well
understood and engaged, else failure is absolutely in view. Many people are
manifesting within the concept of this truth but have never realized the
privilege and virtue they possessed, they were amazed seeing how fruitful and
successful their relationship and marriage is but don't know the name to call
it.
Any success you stumbled into without
knowing what brought it or how it came will end up leaving you, because you
will ignorantly and unconsciously abuse it and it will leave. I advise that you
concentrate on what I will be sharing in this series because it will really
influence your relationship and marriage positively beyond measure.
If you can understand the whole of this
series, engage the truth shared and influence your partner to the point of
knowing and engagement too, I can guarantee you success in your relationship
and marriage. Through wisdom is an
house builded; and by understanding it is established:....1
The concept of love
The word “love” is the most misunderstood,
abused and misused word on earth and mostly this generation and it literarily
mean different thing to different people. According to dictionary, we have
learnt that love is a strong affection or a feeling of intense affection
towards someone or something, but that is not really true (you will find out
soon)
We most time say the word I love you
without knowing what exactly we are saying and most of the time, what we say
contradicts what we have in our minds, we are not evil, we are most time
sincere, but our sincerity in this context is as a result of our ignorance in
understanding the true meaning of love beyond dictionary definition and this
has been the vehicle for many people’s vulnerability.
Many people have been deceived by this
word and lot of destinies had been destroyed because of this same word, some
committed suicide because the pain of disappointment, heartbreak and the rest
became so unbearable and it all started by the use of the word “love”; The heart is deceitful
above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?....2
Some people have really being blessed by
this word but are minority. I think a burden of curiosity should have been
stirred in your mind to ask what love truly is.
Love worketh no ill to his
neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.....3. What law is love fulfilling? If the
criteria or the meter to measure true love is the law, then what is the law and
what does the law ways?
He that loveth not knoweth not God;
for God is love....4,
meaning that for anyone to ever claim that he or she loves, such an individual
know God and God lives in him (kingdom principles and ways to confirm if an
individual manifest true love or not)
See the picture of the dictionary meaning
of love which had kept many in the dilemma of a worthless life and a life of
tragedy all in the name of love. Dictionary called love a strong feeling,
affection and related emotions. See the result of such love:
And it came to pass after this, that
Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar;
and Amnon the son of David loved her....5. It was told that he loved her, but
to what degree, and what is the definition of his love for her, could it be
this dictionary definition or some other kind? You will find out soon
And he said unto him, Why art thou, being the
king's son, lean from day to day? wilt thou not tell me? And Amnon
said unto him, I love Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister....6. Remember he was using the word love
also but yet we don’t know what the word love really mean to him but soon we
shall find out
And Jonadab said unto him, Lay thee down
on thy bed, and make thyself sick: and when thy father cometh to see
thee, say unto him, I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come, and give me meat,
and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it at
her hand.
Let’s talk a little about this, telling a
friend that you love someone and the next advise (strategy to express your love)
is to trap her to the bed, are we seeing their own kind definition for love
which is birthed out of feeling, affection and emotion!! He did as he was
advised and here is the true expression of his kind of love. Then David sent home
to Tamar, saying, Go now to thy brother Amnon's house, and dress him meat.
This lady was so innocent and with a pure heart went to his brother’s house to
do as sent by their father.
And when she had brought them unto
him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, Come lie with me, my sister. Can you see the true definition of
love as far as Ammon was concerned? What you should meditate on at this point
and compare to your relationship and previous relationships is that; And Amnon was so
vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was a
virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do anything to her....7.
You loved someone so much that you became sick, and the whole definition of
that love is SEX. I think I got someone thinking at this point!!! Are you Tamar
in nature or Ammon, could this be so much related to your story and you wonder
why it happened as such. You will find out soon!!
See how he crowned and concluded the
expression of his kind of love after raping her: And Amnon said unto
her, Arise, be gone (meaning get out). And she said unto him, There
is no cause: this evil in sending me away is greater than
the other that thou didst unto me. But he would not hearken unto
her. Then he called his servant that ministered unto him, and said, Put now
this woman out from me, and bolt the door after her....8
Imagine what love mean to them; both Ammon
and Jonadab, the apex of their definition of love is sex, and this is the
definition of love as portrayed by the dictionary which this generation had
adopted and practicing without refrain at all.
This is part of the major reason why marriage fails;
many got married because of sex (love in their definition) and after few months
of marriage, the next thing is the cry for divorce because they wrongly defined
love and it was wrongly expressed between the two parties.
Is it sex that validate love as far as many people are
concerned and this is the reason why love will continue to face abuse,
relationships will continue to fall apart and marriages will continues to fail
until the true meaning of love is learnt, accepted, and fully engaged. This had
been a misconception for years and we can see it today how many home have died,
destinies truncated and lives destroyed because of this misconception about the
definition of love.
Now!! The question is WHAT
IS LOVE
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Reference
Proverbs 24:3.............. 1
Jeremiah 17:9
Rom 13:10
1 John 4:8
2 Sam 13:1
2 Sam 13:4-17
2 Sam 13:2
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