How to make your relationship and marriage fun by creating more intimacy with the gift of nature

Nature had provided all that is needed to make our relationship and marriage worthwhile but our ignorance of it got us entangled with burdens that money may not lift. 

 As matter of fact, there are certain things that are really missing in our romantic relationships as far as this generation is concerned, and those things are actually available but our ignorance of them make them not being manifested in our relationship/marriage and love experiences. You will see an average husband really fighting for the wife/partner to submit and quoting scriptures to back it up because of ego and the indoctrination of his mind

And here is the innocent wife/partner also panting and fighting for love, understanding and respect as the case may be and for these reasons, such relationships may never experience a long term peace and connection.

 Love is a DECISION as I’ve always said; you don’t wait for your husband/partner to love or show the love at its peak before you submit, and as a man/husband, you don’t wait for your wife submission as the criteria to love her

If we can take up responsibilities as individuals, I believe we will enjoy mutual connection, love and overflowing of joy in our relationships/marriages

Taking my note from the five love languages by Dr. Grey Chapman; I will be sharing with us methods and ways to give gift and kinds of gift that you can give to create a last long memory for your partner or loved ones. Give it a try with understanding and the end result will amaze you

How to get gifts for one another regardless your financial level

1. Try a parade of gifts: Leave a box of candy for your spouse in the morning; have flowers delivered in the afternoon; give him a gift in the evening. When your spouse asks, “What is going on?” you respond, “Just trying to fill your love tank!”

Don’t see it as something odd; yours may not be candy but some little things that your spouse loves. Be romantic please, keep your ego and let this emotion flow with strong affections. For singles; you can excite your partner by doing something of such nature as a surprise.

Make a painting of her best picture and give it to someone to deliver it, give her number on a radio program and say to her you love her. Little things like this mean so much and can go a long way in bringing the best bond. Don’t be too rigid.

2. Let nature be your guide: The next time you take a walk through the neighborhood, keep your eyes open for a gift for your spouse. It may be a stone, a stick, or a feather. You may even attach special meaning to your natural gift. For example, a smooth stone may symbolize your marriage with many of the rough places now polished. A feather may symbolize how your spouse is the “wind beneath your wings.” Give it and communicate the meaning.

3. Discover the value of “handmade originals”: Make a gift for your spouse. This may require you to enroll in a class: ceramics, silversmithing, painting, wood carving, etc. Your main purpose for enrolling is to make your spouse a gift. A handmade gift often becomes a family heirloom. Not necessarily to enroll in a college, YouTube can teach you.

4. Give your spouse a gift every day for one week: It need not be a special week, just any week. I promise you it will become “The Week That Was!” If you are really energetic, you can make it “The Month That Was!” Shower your partner with love and understanding and you will get the best out of him/her.

5. Keep a “Gift Idea Notebook”: Every time you hear your spouse say, “I really like that,” write it down in your notebook. Listen carefully and you will get quite a list. This will serve as a guide when you get ready to select a gift. To prime the pump, you could look through a favorite online shopping site together.

 6. Enlist a “personal shopper”: If you really don’t have a clue as to how to select a gift for your partner, asks a friend or family member who knows your wife or husband well to help you. Most people enjoy making a friend happy by getting them a gift, especially if it is with your money.

7. Offer the gift of presence: Say to your spouse, “I want to offer the gift of my presence at any event or on any occasion you would like this month. You tell me when, and I will make every effort to be there.” Get ready! Be positive! Who knows, you may enjoy the cinema or the resort. 

8. Give your spouse a book and agree to read it yourself: Then offer to discuss together a chapter each week. Don’t choose a book that you want him or her to read. Choose a book on a topic in which you know your spouse has an interest: sex, football, needlework, money management, child rearing, religion, backpacking, etc.

9. Give a lasting tribute: Give a gift to your spouse’s church or favorite charity in honor of her birthday, your anniversary, or another occasion. Ask the charity to send a card informing your spouse of what you have done. The church or charity will be excited and so will your spouse.

10. Give a living gift: Purchase and plant a tree or flowering shrub in honor of your spouse. You may plant it in your own yard, where you can water and nurture it together, or with permission in a public park or forest where others can also enjoy it. You will get credit for this one year after year.

Don’t trivialize the power of gift and how much it will bless your relationship and marriage if engaged with understanding and being intentional about it. 

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