Beauty like gold; the cure for heartbreak and divorce part 2

Remember, the painted object is also beautiful just like gold but will last for a limited time, while beauty a kind of gold will remain like that forever

The question is; are you the real gold or the painted object? 

Beauty as the like of gold sustained it’s attraction in the heart of men for a while which satisfied the detailed explanation of beauty in part 1, that you are beautiful to the degree at which you can sustain your attraction or attractiveness in the heart of men

Remember that the painted object also sustained it;s attraction in the heart of men, but to a limited degree after which it was or will be trashed.

Check yourself, hope you are not the painted object, if you are; this series is for you.  Do you have what really qualifies anyone to be called the real gold, if you don’t; this series is also for you. Your facial beauty, shape, complexion and the rest is just a painting of an object with a gold colour once it lacks the values of gold, and the values attached to gold is what make it what it is.

It is the value attributed to the Saul and Jonathan his son that made David cry and week, thereby calling them the beauty of Israel. There are certain and unbendable attributes that a man or woman must possess to validate it beauty/handsomeness in order to be so valuable like gold.

After this teaching and to finally round the series up, we shall be having a very interesting topic titled beauty as an advantage

The sole point of this teaching is that you are beautiful to the degree at which you are valuable, your value is what validates your physical attractiveness; else you are the painted object. 

This is one of the major reason why people are being dumped after few months or years in relationship, because they lack values and the other party will sit and foreseen the future and says NO. Many homes and marriages are at the verge of divorce today because the individuals involved lack values, they are painted object and after a while, the colour faded and their love story is about to end. 

The following are the qualities that validate your beauty/handsomeness among many others. Possess these qualities and you will be shocked to see the result that  your life, relationship and marriage will start to command;

Qualities of a true beauty or handsomeness out of many others

1. Elegance: This is the beauty in movement, appearance or manners. Many people claimed to be beautiful and hot but lack this quality.

I’ve seen extremely beautiful ladies and handsome young men walk without minding their movements, they care not about their steps, not regulating their speed and often time walk as if they are being pushed, some walk sluggishly and all they care about is their makeup’s and robes.

I’ve seen pretty ladies and handsome men dressed and immediately I see them, their dressing automatically influence my sense of judgment about their beauty. Most time, I feel pity for their ignorance. Your dressing is part of the determinant of you beauty, you don’t dress half naked and thinking you are hot, truly you are to a degree, and no responsible man or lady will approach you for a serious relationship

Haven’t you asked yourself why reasonable and responsible young men don’t ask you out, why responsible and vitreous ladies don’t give you time and chance? Check your dressing today and increase the sustainability of your beauty/handsomeness in the heart of men

Still on elegance; many people are manner less, lots don’t value people and relationships, no respect and regards for elders and successful individuals, some know it but can’t help it, while some don’t know that’s who they are. Natural/facial beauty or attraction will take you to places, will connect you to people, but part of those things that will sustain your staying and lasting attraction is your manner

2. Kindness as a character trait: Being kind has to do with your perception about others. How you treat, think about, and speak to others comes from a genuine and sensitive place. You are kind, even to those whom you do not care for. You are aware that you can love people even if you do not like them.

Being kind may be perceived as weakness or vulnerability by others, but you know that kindness is one of your strongest influences. If you can’t say something nice, you have the control to remain quiet. There is no other human quality that will get you further in life than kindness.

Don’t select those you will be kind to, else, you will ignorantly and foolishly act weird to your destiny helper, many people chased away their husband/wife because they lack this attribute of kindness. You don’t need money to be kind. Your words alone can buy you acres of land in the heart of men, your sense of honour and respect can buy you estates in the heart of men. Most ladies know how to dishonor people and make them look rejected or foolish; this is a trait that you are so ugly

3. Composure: Composure is the beauty of self-control. Life is always going to bring its challenges. Without a sense of composure it is easy to allow conflictual situations and relationships to unnerve you, but when you have composure, you are more than a conqueror.

The less you react, defend, and explain, become fearful or controlling, the more command you have over a situation. Having composure allows you to stand tall with grace in the face of loss or challenge and not to be overly boastful when it comes to your success. Composure allows you maintain a certain stillness in the face of life’s changes.

This feeling of proving a point and making everyone to see is not good enough, it will put you in trouble and deny you of greatness. Can you be invited to a wealthy mans house and yet maintain your composure or you will lose yourself immediately and be acting as if you want to die because you are in a mansion or inside an expensive car. Can you see an innocent individual who needs your help and never have the sense of taking advantage of them. Composure!!!!

4. Courage: Be willing to dare greatly in your life. It takes courage to love fully, to change yourself when necessary, to feel deeply, to leave love when it’s scary and to chase your dreams with passion and an unwavering tenacity. You are aware that to become courageous you must do courageous things. You also know it is not the loudness of your mouth but the depth of your character, to keep going no matter your circumstances, which makes you thrive.

 

This are attributes that real men are looking for, men that truly behold and not just see. If you have them, you are on your way to fulfillment. It is not every time you cry, it is not every time you should be looking for someone to tell you sorry or encourage you. Have you ever thought of encouraging someone or being a strength for someone, be courageous because this is a true trait of beauty and not just your 6 packs or foundation filled face. NO

5. Deliberate: You are clear and persistent about whom you are, where you are headed in life and what you want from your relationships to be happy. In being deliberate, people know where they stand with you. You get what you want in life because you are clear in saying what you want.

You use each challenge life brings to positively refine yourself. This refinement keeps your life clean of negativity. Being deliberate keeps you pointed in the direction of your dreams, connected to your true love and to living genuinely as who you are. 

In being deliberate your life is not set up on pretenses. Who you are does not change from person to person or situation to situation. Be intentional about your life and destiny. This will avoid guys/ladies playing prank with your feelings, emotions and destiny. Be intentional about your life; live not your life for change and nature to determine. Be genuine and intentional

6. Intelligent: Intelligence is about knowledge, but even more so about emotions. In being aware of your emotional patterns you are endowed with the flexibility to handle challenge and change, allowing you to unlock smart solutions to your problems.

With a well-rounded intelligence you carry yourself in a stately and unafraid manner. You are secure knowing there are a multitude of choices available in life, so there is no need to be reactive. In being emotionally intelligent you have the ability to keep your eyes on the bigger picture turning obstacles into opportunities.

7. Humble: Life isn’t all about you, in fact, you prefer to celebrate the accomplishments of others as much as your own. You are proud of who you are but have no need to add histrionics to your success. Most of the time you prefer being in the background, working hard and allowing your success speak for itself.

You are sensitive and want the best for everyone. You do not see yourself above others as you are secured enough in yourself that the trap of comparison doesn’t interest you. You enjoy your life for what it is and do not feel entitled to more without the commensurate work to back it up.

8. Loving: There is nothing more appealing to others than to be in the presence of a loving person. When you love yourself you have endless love to give. For your love is a verb and it is expresses itself through loving kindness, touch, your smile and sense of inner joy and vitality.

You are warm towards others and kind to yourself. There is nothing you wouldn’t do to help, and this loving approach is taken into every area of your life from career to parenting. Further, you apply love as a form of discipline and setting boundaries when necessary.

There are times when the only way another can learn and grow is for you to either have to withdrawal your love, or to set boundaries around it, in an effort to protect your generous nature. You know that in order for you to remain loving you must protect your heart and put yourself first in negative situations.

Through life’s experiences you have come to accept that some people can stay in your heart, but not in your life and also to know by knowledge and intelligence; the greatest psychological need of every man which is the need to be loved, valued, and appreciated

To be beautiful to the degree at which no one can reject or trash (heartbreak/divorce) you is to possess all the aforementioned qualities that validates beauty/handsomeness un-apologetically, without faking it but rather being so genuine with it. Who you are internally is the marker of your influence on the world. Beauty as gold is not on the surface but from within

Check this out; Beauty as an advantage

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